in low box the geartrain is under a lot less strain than when in high ratio. the torque applied to the gears is less. and it is usually running slowerish....
if there is grinding of gears it means the synchromesh is not doing its job for some reason. this could be that the rear of the mainshaft is being driven by the wheels and the front of the input shaft and the layshaft is being driven by the engine. to change properly the synchromesh has to slow down (or speed up) the free wheeling gears and allow the shifting ring to move into position in the gear. this will not happen if both sides are running and hence grinding. so when you dip the clutch you might not actually be allowing the input shaft and layshaft to freewheel, does the clutch fully disengage??
if it pops out of gear then the slippers (spring loaded thingies in the syncromesh) are not holding the splined gear ring in its correct position. these can wear quite a lot and stick the gearbox in gear or not allow it to fully engage allowing it to pop out when encouraged.....
there might be a few things to check:-
1) does the clutch actually *Fully* release?
2) is the correct oil (amount and type) in the box, synchromesh needs the oil to do the speeding up and slowing down of the freewheeling gear AND allows the freewheening bits to freewheel....
3) does the gearstick wobble like mad or is there definite gear engagement and the gearstick stays pretty much in the correct position?